For immediate help call:
1-800-SUICIDE

If you know someone who suffers from depression and/or is considering suicide, the most important thing you can do is help. Approaching this situation differs depending on your relationship with the person. Below are ways to help.
As a parent
As a friend
As one who feels depressed
Coping after suicide

As a parent:
· Give child attention and spend quality time with him/her
· Discuss painful issues as they arise
· Allow for emotional expression (especially with boys)
· Listen, and be available to listen as much as possible
· Help develop coping skills
· Help evaluate consequences of actions
· Seek help if warning signs are present

As a friend:
· Show you care
Talk to them - try saying "I'm concerned", "How can I help?" etc.
· Ask questions - don't be afraid to ask!
Be direct in a caring, non-confrontational way - "Are you thinking about suicide?", "How long have you had these thoughts?" etc.
· Let them express their feelings
Don't say "You shouldn't feel that way", "You don't know how lucky you are" etc.
· Give him/her a hotline number
Offer to call for him/her
· If you believe suicide is probable:
Stay with the person
Call for help (hotline, hospital, police, etc.)
· Let adults know (teacher, counselor, clergy, etc.)
Don't worry about being "disloyal," you are really helping your friend

If you feel suicidal or depressed:
· Share your feelings
Talk to a trusted friend or adult
· Contact a Suicide prevention center or other Resource for help

To cope after a suicide:
· Realize and remember everyone grieves in different ways
· It's okay to use the word 'suicide' and the person's name
· Try to be comfortable with survivors and their pain - don't be afraid
· Continue to show support in the months following suicide
(typically support dwindles after a couple weeks)
· Suggest an SOS (Survivors of Suicide) support group
· Send a card on the deceased's birthday, anniversary of death
This shows you have not forgotten

"Listen"

"Ask questions"

"Don't worry about being 'disloyal,' you are really helping your friend"

"Contact a Suicide prevention center..."

"Realize and remember everyone grieves in different ways"